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First dates can turn painfully awkward if you don’t come prepared. Whether it’s how you’ll dress for the meet-up or how you plan to break the ice after the greetings, first impressions can determine your chances of going out together for a second time. So rather than just showing up with only sweaty palms and frazzled nerves, here are a few tips to help you maintain the interest of a date you happen to like.
From looks to attitude, first impressions matter in the game of attraction
Dating Dos:
Comfort over style. Going for something stylish is okay, but it’s best to dress for comfort so you don’t keep on fidgeting or feel self-conscious the entire time. To be safe, choose a basic look, like a button-up shirt for men or a simple blouse for women. After all, it’s better to show more personality on the second or third date once you both become more comfortable with each other. Also, make sure your clothes are clean and freshly pressed, not like it was pulled out of the hamper. For the ladies, skip the heels for flats so you won’t have difficulty taking a stroll with your date.
Cleanliness is godliness. Good grooming reflects your sense of hygiene. Take a thorough shower, clip your nails, and brush your teeth before meeting your date. Body odor is an instant turn-off so deodorant is a must, but choose scentless or lightly scented so you can apply fragrance for added sex appeal. Scents are powerful memory triggers, and you’ll want your date to remember the evening if it goes well. Finally, dress your crowning glory to keep flyaway hair under control. As for men who insist on facial hair, trim the scruff for a neat, even look. Don’t forget to pack mints in case you kiss.
Keep it light. General topics like hobbies, weekend activities, or travel plans can help you get a conversation going. It’s not bad to ask about what your date does for a living, but take caution since most people find their work very stressful. Also, steer clear of heavy topics like politics and religion, which can elicit strong emotions. The key here is to keep the atmosphere cheery.
Dating Don’ts:
Over-sharing. Honesty is much appreciated, but there are some things about you that a total stranger may not be ready to hear. These include past relationships, financial troubles, or personal details about family. Remember, first dates are meant to be casual and fun, not for you to unload excess baggage. Save the more intimate facts for later dates after you’ve developed trust with the other person.
One-upping. No one wants to feel inferior. It may be true that you stayed at a fancier hotel or went to a more expensive shopping spree last vacation than your date, but saying so would only imply that the other person isn’t doing enough. Instead, simply show appreciation by asking more about your date’s experiences or preferences.
Me, me, me: Hogging the conversation only makes you look self-centered and narcissistic. Be sensitive to how long you talk during your turn, and always give your date a chance to speak. Also be aware of how you respond to your date. He or she may have experiences you can relate to, but don’t just butt in and talk about yourself. Instead, ask more details about the story.
Experience is the best teacher when it comes to dating. Still, it helps to learn from others to win at the game of romance. For real-life dating situations, catch First Dates from Mondays to Fridays at 8:50PM, first and exclusive on Blue Ant Entertainment.
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